I say "qualify" because I agree with him in his article "My Big Fat Straight Wedding" - to a point.
It's wonderful to read:
I had that kind of feeling 33 years ago. I wasn't formally "married" to David, but his family treated me as a welcome addition to the family. Aunts, uncles, grandparents - all accepted me (one time David got visibly jealous that I received more Christmas presents than he did!). It was so wonderful that, when we parted I wanted "custody" of his family. Our loving friendship (his family's and mine) lasted past his death from AIDS in 1986. Yes, I know what a difference joyful acceptance can make.
But it's not an acceptance everyone is lucky enough to savor.
At the time, both David and I - the rest of our gay community - were absolutely certain that once a significant number of people were out of the closet, people everywhere would accept us as equals.
That was not to be. Still isn't.
We didn't count on the ferocity of anti-gay sentiments and the "Christian Right", at first led by Jerry Falwell's Moral Majority, then by various others all over the country. We didn't count on "religious" people demonizing us when AIDS came along. We didn't know then that there were people who needed to hate someone, something... anything.
Andrew: I'm overjoyed at the experiences you have with your family. They make me feel lucky that I ever had them. But please try to understand the sheer volume of people who repudiate you for being gay. And repudiate your family for accepting you.
Gay marriage will be a rallying point for bigotry and homophobia for as long as the two exist. And for as long as CINOs (Christians In Name Only), Fundamentalists and Christofascists continue to work against equality. Even winning in cases like No on Proposition 8 won't make things any better. Yes, "it's a start," but I have a very uneasy feeling that with the defeat of Prop 8, we will inadvertently corner a very dangerous wild animal. I'm for that defeat, but I fear it at the same time.
We're already seeing how angry people are when they attend McCain-Palin rallies. We've known for the whole time that Palin was just a bone tossed to Franklin Graham and the rest. But feeding on the wild (read: ungrammatical) rhetoric of Palin has made them rabid. They're the "sheeple" of the leaders like Robertson (old school), Rod Parsley (new and unschooled) and Rick Warren (new and very very shrewd). They are today's Elmer Gantrys and their followers are Elmer Fudds.
But always remember, Andrew: Fudd is the one with the gun.
Just a thought.